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Some personal notes.
Oct. 13th, 2009 09:16 amFirst of all, thanks to whoever gave me the link to geeks.com. I've been able to order a pretty cheap replacement for my desktop computer and a very, very cheap (and much needed) external storage drive. The desktop should be here within a week or so, at which point... in addition to more work-related things... I'll be able to talk about resuming my weekly online D&D games.
I'd like to make a couple of personal notes.
First, this might be hard to believe, but I'm a fairly shy person. Timid, even. I don't like to brag, but in the Beatitudes, I'm promised a fairly substantial inheritance. I know I don't always come across timid online, but... well, online. Much like the most famous character I write about, I have two essential modes: doormat and brick wall... a brick wall made out of angry wolverines. It's hard for me to just say "please stop that, you're bothering me". If a situation becomes intolerable enough for the wall of wolverines to come out, I might do something about it, but if there are other reasons I don't want to tear several new ones or make a fuss, I'll just go on being meek and not say or do anything.
This is all to say that boundaries: I has them. Yes, I put my writing on the internet for public consumption. Yes, some of that writing is kind of personal and some of that writing is erotic. Yes, I'm fairly active on Livejournal, have comments turned on for my journal and may pop up on some people's journal comments and in a few communities, meaning that in internet terms I'm "out in public" where I can be approached. And I don't mind people becoming friends with me, either in the sense of adding me on LJ or Facebook (though I don't go onto Facebook very often) or in the sense of actually talking to me and getting to know me.
But please don't presume intimacy with me or treat me as a sexual object.
This isn't directed at any one person. There may be a few people who might feel like they prompted this, and if you're one of them, please don't feel the need to respond to this... I really don't want to make it into a big deal. This note is prompted by some situations that came to a head yesterday, but it's more about the future than the past. It's more a pre-emptive self-preservation thing. I dealt with the situations that were making me uncomfortable politely and firmly without any rabid wolverines, but it still left me shaky and queasy to do so, and at a time when I really had better things to do than be shaky and queasy.
I was going to include a few more, happier personal updates in this post, but I've managed to get myself upset again, so I'm going to put on some soothing music and finish the next MU chapter. I'll talk to you all later.
I'd like to make a couple of personal notes.
First, this might be hard to believe, but I'm a fairly shy person. Timid, even. I don't like to brag, but in the Beatitudes, I'm promised a fairly substantial inheritance. I know I don't always come across timid online, but... well, online. Much like the most famous character I write about, I have two essential modes: doormat and brick wall... a brick wall made out of angry wolverines. It's hard for me to just say "please stop that, you're bothering me". If a situation becomes intolerable enough for the wall of wolverines to come out, I might do something about it, but if there are other reasons I don't want to tear several new ones or make a fuss, I'll just go on being meek and not say or do anything.
This is all to say that boundaries: I has them. Yes, I put my writing on the internet for public consumption. Yes, some of that writing is kind of personal and some of that writing is erotic. Yes, I'm fairly active on Livejournal, have comments turned on for my journal and may pop up on some people's journal comments and in a few communities, meaning that in internet terms I'm "out in public" where I can be approached. And I don't mind people becoming friends with me, either in the sense of adding me on LJ or Facebook (though I don't go onto Facebook very often) or in the sense of actually talking to me and getting to know me.
But please don't presume intimacy with me or treat me as a sexual object.
This isn't directed at any one person. There may be a few people who might feel like they prompted this, and if you're one of them, please don't feel the need to respond to this... I really don't want to make it into a big deal. This note is prompted by some situations that came to a head yesterday, but it's more about the future than the past. It's more a pre-emptive self-preservation thing. I dealt with the situations that were making me uncomfortable politely and firmly without any rabid wolverines, but it still left me shaky and queasy to do so, and at a time when I really had better things to do than be shaky and queasy.
I was going to include a few more, happier personal updates in this post, but I've managed to get myself upset again, so I'm going to put on some soothing music and finish the next MU chapter. I'll talk to you all later.