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And a "final" note.
Jul. 27th, 2011 05:13 pmI don't have a great history with sticking to this kind of declaration even on less serious and important topics, but with my readership informed of what's going on in my life and my last post further clarifying the motivations and the sequence of events that led us to where we are now, I am going to do my best to publicly back out of the conversation for a bit.
I know the conversation's not going to stop because I stop talking, and I don't intend it to. But it's grown to the point where no one can claim ownership of it, and I'm obviously very invested in it so I'd rather see it continue to develop without me. What needed to be said has been said. I hope my "motives" posts will be brought up when questions they touch on are raised, as that's the point.
I don't have any expectations one way or another about Caoimhe's ability or willingness to take responsibility for her actions or seek help, but I don't think it would be helpful to anyone if I just got up here and railed against her every day for the rest of my life and I don't intend to do so.
Barring any further major developments or any questions that I and Jack both agree can't go without being answered (if we left it up to me... well, we don't want to leave it up to me), that's it. We will continue to deal with the personal repercussions of this event for some time to come, but as far as I'm concerned the public "mission" is accomplished with the message out there and being discussed.
Note that I have been pretty reflexively turning up the comment screening to "all" on these posts and only unscreening with permission, but that's not my usual setting and policy. If you choose to comment on other posts about other things, I assume you're okay with having your comment visible.
The response to this has been incredible and moving and a great comfort to Jack. Barring a very small number of small and ugly private incidents, we have not heard an unkind word.
I know the conversation's not going to stop because I stop talking, and I don't intend it to. But it's grown to the point where no one can claim ownership of it, and I'm obviously very invested in it so I'd rather see it continue to develop without me. What needed to be said has been said. I hope my "motives" posts will be brought up when questions they touch on are raised, as that's the point.
I don't have any expectations one way or another about Caoimhe's ability or willingness to take responsibility for her actions or seek help, but I don't think it would be helpful to anyone if I just got up here and railed against her every day for the rest of my life and I don't intend to do so.
Barring any further major developments or any questions that I and Jack both agree can't go without being answered (if we left it up to me... well, we don't want to leave it up to me), that's it. We will continue to deal with the personal repercussions of this event for some time to come, but as far as I'm concerned the public "mission" is accomplished with the message out there and being discussed.
Note that I have been pretty reflexively turning up the comment screening to "all" on these posts and only unscreening with permission, but that's not my usual setting and policy. If you choose to comment on other posts about other things, I assume you're okay with having your comment visible.
The response to this has been incredible and moving and a great comfort to Jack. Barring a very small number of small and ugly private incidents, we have not heard an unkind word.
